An abridged version of my phone conversation with Alcoholly this morning -
Me: Hi! I just wanted to wish you a Happy Mother's Day!
Alco: Oh, thank you. This is such an awful day for me.
Me: I'm sorry.
Alco: But, I will get through this. I will. What is your family doing for you today?
Me: Well, Erik made breakfast, fed and dressed the kids, and right now I can hear him downstairs making homemade bread and getting dinner started. I got to lay in bed for as long as I wanted. It's been a really nice morning.
Alco: You know, Dearheart, you are teaching your family to treat you poorly.
Alco: Your husband should be doing this every single day. Your actions are influencing generations! When you allow your family to treat you this badly, you are teaching your boys to treat their future wives this way. Your sons are learning from your poor example.
Me: Okay, Happy Mother's Day! [hang up]
I went downstairs and found Erik scrubbing a pan (apparently with his eyes closed) harder than I ever have in my whole life. This is after a 50 hour work week... after fixing our computers... fixing our cars... after still finding time to go out with me last night... do I even deserve everything he does to take care of us? (Now I hear him downstairs vacuuming.)
Alcoholly isn't the only one to give me such crazy advice lately. I had another woman, similar to Alcoholly, say almost the same things to me recently. I know it's well meaning, but I prefer advice from people who's lives I want to emulate. In the future, if I want some heartwarming Mother's Day advice, I'll call my mother or mother-in-law, or read the best talk ever on the subject of mothering. What was I thinking?
I hope you all have a wonderful Mother's Day. This really is my favorite holiday.