7.21.2008

SEIZING THE MOMENT

Today I had the rare opportunity to go out to lunch by myself. That probably sounds sad and lonely to most people, but for me, it was refreshing. I used to do that sort of thing all the time before I had kids and I really miss it.

Why do I find it so difficult to enjoy the current "season" of my life? When I was childless, all I wanted was a child. Now I have two, and I find myself often wishing life was as carefree and peaceful as it was before the kids were born.

Tonight as I was rocking Charlie to sleep, I tried to remember what it felt like to have him inside me just three months ago. I'm starting to forget already and it makes me sad. I looked over to the place in my bedroom where he was born and thought about the first time I saw him. I have such conflicting feelings about time passing. I know that one day I will wake up and my kids will be adults. I keep telling myself that although this time is difficult and I am so very tired, it will quickly pass and I do not want to have any regrets.

One of the most important lessons I have learned about being a parent is to seize the moment. If you have a spare 5 minutes, don't waste it doing something stupid because it might be the only 5 minutes you get to yourself that morning. When you have an opportunity to take a nap, take it immediately. And most importantly, when your child is two years old and throwing his 10th temper tantrum that morning because he can't wear his pajamas to the park, just smile and think how one day this will be a fun memory. Or at least I hope it is.

12 comments:

  1. Words of wisdom. I used to love to eat lunch or dinner by myself when I was single. It was nice just to sit and read the paper or a book and not have amybody interupt you except to bring you food or something to drink. I don't care how long you've been married or how in love you are with each other, EVERYBODY needs a break once in a while.

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  2. I was just telling Zach how much I miss sleeping in and just lying in bed as long as I wanted too! But you know what, I'd much rather be a mother than not. It's definitely a sacrifice! While everyone in the office went to The dark night late the other night, we were home, cleaning up a blow out! haha!

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  3. Cristin, this is a great post! Although we sacrifice many things to be mothers it is the greatest blessing in life. Just think of all the memories you are creating now with those adorable boys...even if Luke does want to go to the park in his jammies. =)

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  4. That is one important lesson that took me awhile to learn - take a nap as soon as you get a chance. I used to try and do one or two things before laying down and without fail, my baby would wake up as soon as I laid down. Lesson now learned.

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  5. I totally know what you mean about taking time to yourself - it's refreshing even to go for a drive in the car and have the kids fall asleep. Then I can play my music instead of Alvin and the Chipmunks. LOL - And don't forget to take the time to play with your kids. Often I find that my kids play with each other while I get things done around the house - cleaning, doing laundry, making meals, etc. At this age, they want to spend time with me.....I need to remember to take advantage of it until they grow up and don't want to anymore :)

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  6. Time does go by so quickly. Remember when we were single and not married. THOSE WERE THE DAYS. J/K

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  7. I was just thinking the same thing yesterday when I left the kids at home with Nate and went to sign Kaitlyn up for preschool. There's something about getting in the car and driving off all by yourself. It feels so free! Needless to say, I took a detour on the way home and shopped at Target for 45 minutes. Aaaahhhh... (and then I came home and snuggled with Kaitlyn... I think I can be a better mom when I get a break every once in a while!)

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  8. I know exactly what you mean- the other night I got to run some errands by myself (which I hardly do because Larry is hardly home at night and when he is, I feel bad running off) but it felt SO SO nice to not be chasing after Leyna the whole time, and just enjoying the silence! (She is a MAJOR talker and demands my attention to her talking or she screams and yells at me until she gets it) I could actually take my time browsing through stuff, it was amazing! :) I do feel like to ward off being frustrated with her tantrums, I just have to keep focusing on the funny things she does and says, becuase this really is such a hard but CUTE phase they are going through- can't wait to see you guys!

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  9. This was a great post because I think everyone can relate. I really LOVE having my freedom of no kids. I was just online planning a vacation for Vak and I to take after the summer is over- definitley not something I could do if I had a little one at home.

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  10. Hey Cristin, I know you already got a lot of feed back, but I too can relate. The fits they throw and everything else that feels like so much work or extra effort is just temporary. I'm sure you noticed how fast Luke has grown up! They really do grow up so fast and although it is nice in ways, it's so sad they can't stay babies! The thing I try to focus on when I'm at my wits end is how grateful I am for my kids and how much I love them. It might sound weird to you, but sometimes I think about those sad stories you here on the news about kid's being kidnapped or worse and it brings everything into perspective for me. The more I focus on how cute they are and how far they have come and how grateful I am, it gives me strength to get through those moments of craziness. But definitely go out to lunch by yourself when you can! Anytime I get a small break, I am re-energized and most of the time miss my kids like crazy and am ready to handle anything again. You are doing a good job!

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  11. I love your ideas for blogs, I'm so boring and just comment on my pictures. I love the topics you come up with. I love being a mom, but there are days when I just wish I didn't have to worry about anyone else's needs.

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  12. This post makes me kind of sad. I watched Mama Mia today (ALL BY MYSELF!!!) and there was an underlying theme of "no regrets," just like here in your post. That, too made me sad. I hate regrets.

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